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Allison Holker has spoken about Stephen “tWitch” Boss in a few different phases: immediately after his death in 2022–2023 and again in 2025 while promoting her memoir, which is what’s causing the new wave of discussion and backlash.

Quick Scoop: What She Said About tWitch

In public interviews and statements, Allison has focused on a few core themes about tWitch:

• She said that “no one had any inkling that he was low” and that he didn’t want people to see his pain, describing him as wanting to be everyone’s “Superman and protector.”

• She has said he was “hiding so much” emotionally and struggling internally in ways she did not fully know about at the time, which she has described as both shocking and heartbreaking to process after his death.

• In newer interviews tied to her memoir, she has talked about discovering “alarming” things after his death (including in their home/closet) that revealed how much he had been going through privately, describing it as a “really scary moment” that helped her understand the depth of his struggles.

• She has framed sharing these details as an attempt to help others by being honest about mental health, saying she wants people who feel suicidal to “ask for help” and understand how deeply their loss would affect the people who love them.

Her 2025 Memoir Comments & Intent

Around early 2025, Allison began promoting her memoir This Far: My Story of Love, Loss, and Embracing the Light , and that’s when the conversation online really intensified.

In connection with the book, she has said:

• Her intention in writing and speaking about tWitch’s struggles is to share “her own story” and “part of [her] life with Stephen” in order to help other people who are facing mental health issues or grief.

• She has emphasized that she still doesn’t fully “know what happened,” and that even as she tries to piece things together, there will always be parts she can’t completely understand.

• She says she has spent the past two years talking with mental health organizations and educating herself in order to better recognize warning signs and share them with others.

• She has publicly stated that she plans to donate the proceeds of the book to support the “Move with Kindness” foundation in Stephen’s honor, focusing on mental-health-related work.

Backlash and Mixed Reactions

Her more recent comments about tWitch’s “demons,” drug use, and hidden struggles have sparked strong reactions:

• Some family members, friends, and members of the dance community have criticized her for publicly sharing highly personal details, calling it “tacky,” “classless,” or “opportunistic,” and accusing her of monetizing his pain and legacy.

• Online discussions (forums, Reddit, etc.) include people who feel she is oversharing, potentially hurting his memory and their children, and revealing things that tWitch might not have wanted public.

• Others defend her, arguing that she is allowed to tell her side of the story, that she’s using her grief to help others understand mental health and suicide, and that the proceeds going to a mental-health foundation show good intentions.

Allison, for her part, has responded to some of the criticism by saying she is “just trying to help people feel safe to ask for help and support” and that she will “always love” Stephen, framing her interviews and book as an extension of that love and her healing process.

How She Talks About Her Own Healing

In these interviews, she also talks about herself and her kids:

• She has said that she and the children started intensive therapy in 2023 and that healing is “moment by moment,” with triggers still appearing in everyday life.

• She describes learning that “it’s okay to not be okay” and says she is trying not to fall into the same patterns of hiding pain that she believes Stephen did.

• She’s talked about documenting her feelings early on, originally just to remember and possibly share with her kids one day, which later evolved into material for the book.

Bottom Note

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