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what does the bible say about celebrating valentine's day

The Bible does not mention Valentine’s Day by name, so Christians look at broader biblical principles about love, idolatry, conscience, and how we use cultural holidays.

1. Is Valentine’s Day in the Bible?

  • Valentine’s Day as a modern holiday (cards, chocolates, dates on February 14) does not appear in Scripture.
  • The Bible does, however, talk a lot about love between spouses, friends, family, and the church, which many Christians apply to how they approach the day.

So the question is less “Is Valentine’s Day allowed?” and more “Can I celebrate it in a way that honors God?”

2. What the Bible says about love

If you strip away the marketing and focus on genuine, godly love, you are right in the center of biblical teaching.

Key themes:

  • Love is patient, kind, unselfish, and faithful (see 1 Corinthians 13:4–7).
  • We are commanded to “love one another” as Christ has loved us.
  • Love is shown in actions: sacrifice, forgiveness, encouragement, honoring others above ourselves.

If Valentine’s Day is used as a reminder to:

  • Cherish your spouse or fiancé with faithfulness and purity
  • Encourage friends and family with Christlike love
  • Point your heart back to God’s love

…then those things are very much in line with biblical teaching.

3. Concerns some Christians raise

Some believers are uneasy with Valentine’s Day for a few reasons:

  • Historical roots: Parts of the tradition are tied (loosely and indirectly) to Roman festivals and later Christianized celebrations of St. Valentine, a martyr remembered for supporting Christian marriages.
  • Cultural excess: The modern holiday can push materialism, lust, and shallow romance rather than holy, covenant love.
  • Conscience: Some feel that the holiday’s background or current expression makes it hard for them personally to celebrate with a clear conscience.

In the New Testament, similar questions show up around special days and food offered to idols. Paul teaches that:

  • Some Christians can participate with thanksgiving to God.
  • Others abstain to honor God.
  • Each should act in faith, not judgment, and not cause others to stumble.

Many Christians apply that same principle to Valentine’s Day.

4. Balanced biblical approach to Valentine’s Day

Here’s a simple way to think about it through a biblical lens:

  1. Check your motive
    • Are you celebrating to show sacrificial, faithful love, or just to copy culture and indulge lust or pride?
  1. Honor God in how you celebrate
    • Keep purity in dating relationships.
    • In marriage, use the day to deepen commitment, not just chase feelings.
    • Let gratitude and prayer be part of the day.
  1. Guard against idolatry and pressure
    • Don’t make romance, gifts, or social media approval into a “god.”
    • Remember your worth comes from God’s love, not from having a date or receiving gifts.
  1. Respect Christian freedom and conscience
    • If your conscience is troubled by the holiday, you are free not to celebrate.
    • If you celebrate in a Christ-honoring way, do so humbly, without looking down on those who abstain.

A practical example: A married couple might have a simple dinner, pray together, and read a short passage about love such as 1 Corinthians 13 or 1 John 4, using the day to renew their commitment to love as Christ loved the church.

5. Forum-style snapshot of current Christian discussion

Online and church discussions today tend to cluster into three main views:

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View How they see Valentine’s Day Typical reasoning
Redeem and celebrate A neutral cultural day that can be used to show godly love to spouse, family, friends, and even the lonely. Focus on Scriptures about love and marriage, ignore pagan or secular baggage, use it as an opportunity to witness and bless.
Cautious participation Okay to mark the day, but only in modest, Christ-centered ways. Concerned about consumerism, sexuality, and pressure, but see no direct biblical ban on a simple, God-honoring celebration.
Conscientious abstention Prefer not to celebrate at all. Uncomfortable with origins or modern expression; choose to treat it as just another day, focusing instead on expressing love year-round.
In short, the Bible doesn’t forbid or command Valentine’s Day, but it does clearly command **how** we are to love every day of the year. If you choose to celebrate, do it in a way that reflects God’s character—pure, patient, faithful, and self-giving.

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