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If you can’t sleep, start with simple, calming things you can control right now, then think about what to change in your routine tomorrow for better nights ahead.

First, check: is it an emergency?

If you’re having thoughts of self‑harm, feeling unsafe, or having chest pain, trouble breathing, or other severe symptoms, you should seek urgent medical help or call your local emergency number immediately.

If you’ve had weeks of almost no sleep that’s affecting your ability to function (work, drive, care for yourself), contact a doctor as soon as you can; persistent insomnia sometimes needs professional treatment such as cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia (CBT‑I).

What to do right now if you can’t sleep

These are things you can try tonight when you’re lying awake in bed.

  1. Get out of bed after ~20 minutes
    • If you’ve been awake and frustrated, get up and go to another dim, quiet room.
    • Do something calm (read a paper book, listen to soft music, light stretching) until you feel drowsy, then return to bed.
 * This trains your brain to connect bed with sleep, not tossing and turning.
  1. Keep lights low and screens off
    • Avoid phones, laptops, TVs – their blue light can block melatonin and keep you wired.
 * Use a small, warm‑colored lamp if you need light.
  1. Do a simple breathing exercise
    • Example: inhale through your nose for 4 seconds, hold for 4, exhale slowly through your mouth for 6–8, repeat for a few minutes.
    • Slow breathing helps switch your body from “alert” mode into a more relaxed state, which can make dropping off easier.
  1. Try progressive muscle relaxation
    • Starting at your feet, gently tense a muscle group for ~5 seconds, then release for ~10–15 seconds, moving slowly up through your legs, stomach, shoulders, face.
    • This reduces physical tension and can calm a racing mind.
  1. Gentle “worry parking”
    • If your brain is looping on problems, jot key worries or to‑dos on paper and tell yourself you’ll deal with them tomorrow.
    • Writing them down can make them feel less urgent and help you disengage mentally.
  1. Use sound wisely
    • Soft music, white noise, or a fan can mask little sounds and feel soothing for many people.
 * Keep volume low so it doesn’t stimulate you.

If none of this makes you sleepy after a while, it’s still better to be calmly awake (reading, breathing, stretching) than anxiously clock‑watching in bed.

How to set yourself up for better sleep (tomorrow and beyond)

These are habits you build over days and weeks; they matter as much as what you do at night.

1. Build a steady sleep schedule

  • Go to bed and get up at about the same time every day, weekends included.
  • Aim for enough time in bed to get roughly 7–9 hours of sleep, depending on what your body needs.
  • Your internal clock loves consistency; irregular bedtimes are strongly tied to trouble falling asleep.

2. Create a sleep‑friendly bedroom

  • Keep the room cool, dark, and quiet; use blackout curtains, earplugs, or a fan/white‑noise if needed.
  • Reserve your bed for sleep and intimacy only – not for scrolling, working, or watching TV – so your body associates it with sleep.
  • A comfortable mattress and pillow that suit your body can reduce discomfort that wakes you up.

3. Build a wind‑down routine

  • Start winding down 30–60 minutes before bed with the same steps most nights (for example: shower → tea → book → lights out).
  • Good options include quiet reading, gentle stretching or yoga, a warm bath or shower, calm music, or a short meditation.
  • Try to keep devices off at least 30–60 minutes before lights out because evening blue light can delay sleep.

4. Watch caffeine, food, and alcohol

  • Avoid caffeine (coffee, strong tea, energy drinks, many sodas) from late afternoon onward, since it can stay in your system for hours.
  • Skip heavy or very spicy meals close to bedtime; aim to finish eating 2–3 hours before you sleep.
  • While alcohol may make you feel sleepy, it fragments sleep later in the night, so limiting it before bed can improve overall rest.

5. Use daylight and movement

  • Get some natural light, especially earlier in the day – even a short walk outside helps set your body clock and improves sleep quality.
  • Do regular physical activity; even 10–30 minutes of walking most days is linked to better sleep, as long as intense exercise isn’t right before bedtime.
  • If you nap, keep it short (about 20–30 minutes) and not too late in the day; long or late naps can make nighttime sleep harder.

If bad sleep keeps happening

Sometimes insomnia becomes a pattern that’s hard to break alone.

  • Track your sleep for 1–2 weeks (bedtime, wake time, naps, caffeine, exercise, how you felt) to spot patterns you can change.
  • If poor sleep lasts more than a few weeks, or you snore loudly, gasp at night, or feel extremely sleepy during the day, talk to a doctor – conditions like insomnia or sleep apnea are treatable and getting help can transform your quality of life.
  • Many guidelines now recommend cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia (CBT‑I) as a first‑line treatment; it focuses on changing thoughts and habits that keep insomnia going, not just prescribing medication.

Mini story: “One small change at a time”

Imagine someone who lies in bed at midnight, scrolling through their phone, sipping late‑night coffee, and wondering why they can’t sleep. Over a few weeks they make small changes: they stop caffeine after lunch, start a short walk in daylight most days, and turn their phone off an hour before bed. They add a simple routine – warm shower, calming music, a few stretches – and get out of bed instead of forcing sleep when they’re wide awake. None of this fixes things overnight, but over time their brain rebuilds the link: bed means rest, not stress, and sleep starts to come more easily and feel more refreshing.

TL;DR:
If you can’t sleep right now, get out of bed after a while, keep things dark and quiet, and focus on relaxing your body and mind, not “forcing” sleep. Over the next days, a consistent schedule, less evening screen time and caffeine, a better wind‑down routine, regular daylight and movement, and, if needed, professional help can make a big difference in how quickly you fall asleep and how rested you feel.

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