The phrase “why do I choose people who don’t choose me” comes from the viral song “use me!!!!!!!” by Olga Myko , where the chorus repeats: “Why do I choose people that don’t choose me? It’s so stupid, it’s so goofy.” This line has turned into a trending search and discussion topic because many listeners relate to choosing partners or friends who do not give the same energy back.

Song and key lyric

  • The lyric appears in Olga Myko’s track often titled “use me!!!!!!!” or “Use Me” , released in 2025 and now circulating on YouTube, TikTok, and streaming platforms.
  • In the chorus, the narrator asks why they keep ending up with people who use them and are not afraid to lose them, highlighting a pattern of one‑sided relationships.

Meaning and emotional theme

  • The song describes feeling used , ignored, and replaced, with lines about giving too much too soon and not being “someone that you marry.”
  • Many listeners interpret it as a story about repeatedly falling for emotionally unavailable or careless people, then realizing that this pattern is painful and unfair.

Why this hits so hard online

  • In late 2025 and early 2026, clips of the “why do I choose people that don’t choose me?” line have been widely used in short-form videos and edits, often over breakup or “toxic relationship” content.
  • Forum discussions and comments around the song often turn into broader conversations about self‑worth, attachment styles, and learning to “choose yourself” instead of chasing people who are indifferent.

If the lyric resonates with you

  • Feeling seen by this lyric can be a sign you recognize a pattern of unequal effort , where you give more time, care, or loyalty than you receive. Many commenters under the song mention realizing they “had an open invitation saying ‘use me’” in past relationships.
  • Common themes people talk about include:
    • Ignoring red flags because the connection feels safe or familiar.
    • Confusing intensity or drama with love.
    • Struggling to walk away even when feeling disrespected or sidelined.

If you want, a next step could be breaking down some possible psychological reasons people “choose people who don’t choose them” (like attachment patterns or self-esteem) and how to start shifting that pattern.